The Thoughts' "Traffic Policeman"
"I cannot control my thoughts" - I hear this kind of say many times.
Coming to work with our cognition, the fundamental thing is practicing the ability to separate our self from our thoughts, as if they were external objects themselves.
This is the first step, and it's not easy to apply, yet, totally possible.
When a certain thought "catches" our self, our self-drowned in it. the self`s existence is not separated from it. The thought is being experienced as a sole real essence.
And even if we have some understanding of a certain separation, we still need the tools in order to establish this separation and become the "traffic policeman" of my thinking, in the positive meaning of it. In other words, to become the landlord of my thinking who directs the thoughts` traffic.
One of the traps here is the immediate impulse to get rid of a thought that has a hidden potential to contribute to my development where we feel deeply stuck and we`re not even aware of this being stuck.
That's why the work of eliminating here is very important.
One of the basic tools is developing witnessing the thinking and the thoughts. A thought has its own "life". We learn to observe it, and the helpful power for that is the power of searching the truth. This power has its own "life" as well - an essence of asking, of inquiring, of life and vitality, a power of curiosity and evolution.
Since thinking is connected deeply to our will power, when we feel this block we can notice the disconnection between the thinking forces and the will power; then we look again and again after order and active doing in our lives, while feeling stuck.
Therefore, practicing the witnessing as mentioned is an essential phase working with our cognition for the next steps to come.
A Part of a Whole
Self-revelation requires encounter between self and other: the revealer needs an other to whom to be revealed.
(Rabbi Arthur Green - Seek My Face: A Jewish Mystical Theology – p. 62).
For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.
(Mathew 18, 20)
The acknowledgment that besides being individuals we are also part of a larger "thing" – usually disappears from our consciousness, almost as a default. We are built like that: we feel our individuality (and freedom) as the center of the world. On one hand it is true, on the other it means that (unconsciously) we forget everything around us, or we consider it to be in our service. Usually, we`re even not aware of forgetting that, especially when we are in pain; Pain separates but it is also the main way to feel connected with the other.
It is really important to hold this acknowledgment active in our minds; then it becomes like a nourishing source, like the breast of a mother for a child. It can help us in difficult moments to re-connect and re-member with ourselves, with the world, and with the other; it reminds us the source, the original truth. And the "other" is exactly in the same situation as me: he is also – before and behind everything – a human being, a part of a whole, a part of connected and endless chain.
As Rudolf Steiner said:
"Those who judge human beings according to generic characteristics only reach the boundary, beyond which people begin to be beings whose activity is based on free self-determination...Characteristics of race, tribe, ethnic group and genders are subjects for special sciences...But all these sciences cannot penetrate through to the special nature of the individual. Where the realm of freedom of thought and action begins, the determination of individuals according to generic laws - ends."
Intuitive Thinking as a Spiritual Path. A Philosophy of Freedom (GA 4), Hudson (1894)/1995.
When we re-open our eyes – through our active thinking - with this awareness, we learn to recognize in every experience that we have the wide connection, the big picture of us all being part of creation, each of us in her/his own unique way and expression.
This far, thinking was given to human being only; therefore, developing an active thinking – i.e., by asking questions, by inquiring situations and experiences, by doubting what seems to be a total true, etc. – we use our thinking to reveal itself for us, and thus also to reveal our own self in spirit.
Blessings to the year 2017 !
Here is one of the most hard human challenges - how to hold space for the other (and why..)?
Sometimes it is so contradicted to my instincts - because here it is not comfortable, and there it is so hard, and there it is so exhausting, and here it is so - really! - against my opinions.. And it is most difficult when I feel I am hurt, really hurt.
And it is not about self-"deleting" - otherwise, then, who is the holder, if her/him does not exist?
So, how do we hold both? my-self and the other`s self?
The article here in the link - https://www.facebook.com/upliftconnect/videos/839188052884844/ - asks to give some important guide-lines.
And still, applying them takes time.
But life itself takes time.. :-) We develop in time, we move in it, we grow and get mature in time, and we study in time. So any application of different things takes time. it is nothing but an eternal process. So, it is totally ok.. :-)
The simple - and sometimes, the obvious - acknowledgement that there is something common in all of us, humans, helps me, each time a bit more.
Again and again I realize that humans have dreams (different and similar), pains (different and similar), faces (different and similar), bodies (different and similar), affections (similar, for example, towards children, and different), etc .....
And I do not go immediately to apply it on extreme and difficult cases, such as we hear on the news. I start from what is close to me in daily life.
And from time to time I also try to remember that there are so many things that I still don`t know...certainly not for somebody else. I can just offer, not more than that.
I try to remember what combines, not what separates.
I forget that and then ask to remember again.
It is thinking-activity - to be active in that as much as possible. And somehow, in hidden way, it also brings peace... :-)
In ancient times spirituality was a path for unique people only. Those who had chosen that path – or were chosen by others - were searchers that had to go through a deep and very inconvenient, long and even very scary initiation, being guided by an experienced teacher. Spirituality was about experiencing the supersensible, meaning: the gates to higher worlds that exist beyond the familiar earthly senses.
Things have developed, moved, materialized and changed. Spirituality became a field that can be explored by every individual and not only by unique people, if she or he wishes to do that. But In this process the concept "spirituality" has gotten various approaches and "interpretations": Not necessarily anymore a deep and totally unknown process of initiation, an encounter with the non-physic level, but a way to enlarge and increase good feelings and emotions, which the common base of them is usually "Love".
So, has "Love" also become a concept rather than essence of a deep connection?
One`s life brings different events – smaller or larger – that encounter him with pain, anger, insult, humiliation, and especially fear; the uncertainty – which is the basic nature of life - brings anxieties and many unsolved questions. So it is only natural that we will seek for certainty, for answers and pleasant feelings, mainly love. Of course, we all want to be loved and to love.
The danger in this process is to hold "love" as a "magic" and easy "solution" for all the unpleasant situations and feelings mentioned above. It happens, it happens a lot, and it happens totally unconsciously. "I love you" became easy words.
Does it really mean "love"? Why are we all looking for a "true" love? Doesn't it mean that there is a "false love"?
As life teaches, (true) love is something to work very hard for and to build, usually through the encounter with pain; pain is the best way to awaken human consciousness, as if it sounds an alarm to awake us from our deep sleep and forces us to get up for work – not work in the office, but our inner work.. J
As I experience it, love is not automatic. And it is much more than a "regular" emotion of the emotional level; love is a choice, a choice that comes from the conscious level, and it means that I also have the choice not to love. In other words: The freedom to love.
In order to choose love, not only to increase pleasure in one`s life to "feel good", one has to decide to open oneself. One needs to listen, to widen oneself far beyond everything he knows, let one`s thinking to dis-cover for him a new reality; exactly like they did in ancient times - when they were willing to go through the initiation process and meet the supersensible - but up-to-date...!
It means, for me, to be willing to go also through the unpleasant experiences that I have – meeting myself, but especially while meeting the other – and actually work there and establish love, even with my closest people.
To love is to make an effort, to seek for positivity when one is in criticism, to make the transformation from the inner power of separation – and that can happen only if I choose and decide to do so actively.
George Ritchie, in his book "Return from tomorrow", describes – after his NDE (near death experience) - his meeting with Bill Cody, a holocaust survivor who lost all his family, that told him he had chosen love rather hate; I believe it was a conscious decision out of an active consciousness.
In order to implement a free choice of love one must also acknowledge the option of not loving, taking into account the result of what he chooses, after asking oneself honestly where his thinking- heart leads him to.
In other words, a possible "understanding" of the essence named "Spirituality", or "Love", is the expression of an active moving consciousness of the human being; it is an activity in the level of pure and free non- materialized thinking.
How Does One Know?
Once We Knew / Wislawa Szymborska
Once we knew the world well.
It was so small it could fit in a handshake,
so easy you could describe it with a smile,
it was ordinary as old truths in a prayer.
History did not welcome us with fanfares.
It threw filthy dust into our eyes.
Before us only dead-end roads,
poisoned wells, bitter bread.
Our war's booty is knowledge of the world.
It is so large it can fit in a handshake.
so difficult you can describe it with a smile,
it is extraordinary as old truths in a prayer.
Walking in the world without knowing. The "right" and the "wrong" are changing all the time; the Ten Commandments are being interpreted in many different, new and complexed ways; different "laws" of morality – what is their validity? Who decides? Who is choosing them? People are claiming for "freedom" but on behalf of "freedom" sometimes we see a deep chaos; what is "true" and what is "false"?
I hear myself inside, I listen to people around, to those wondering voices, and it seems that in our days – more than ever – the presence of "The tree of knowledge and evil" (and not "The tree of knowledge or evil") is here: we are confused about what is "good" and what is "evil.
And what do I know about myself? And about the other? And is it possible at all to know the other?
And what does it means "And the man knew Eve his wife" (Genesis chapter 4, psalm 1) –the knowledge that is brought here is not as any other knowledge; it is about real knowing, from the inside; it is not "knowledge" of empty quotes or blind repetition after someone who said something in another time; the Laster means to know intellectually, the former means a real knowing.
It is hard to "know" in the biblical meaning. It demands a Sisyphus' effort, an on-going effort of walking in the path, a path that starts with questions, and not with prepared- known-in-advance answers; In our times, each of us is invited to stay with the questions, while walking in a world that wants closed answers, that demands certainty and absolutism; and it is hard than ever.
In her above-mentioned poem, Szymborska writes that war is the reason for that chaos. And yes, wars do cause losing the path; but Szymborska also writes so deeply and lovely that regarding old truths in a prayer – even war cannot take that away. In our times, we are those who have to find in ourselves the old truths in a prayer, mainly with our own inner forces.
I don’t know how you feel, how you are experiencing your experiences. I will never know; I can assume, I can guess, I can put different assumptions about you, especially if we are familiar with each other; but I will never know your experiences the way you feel them inside you. And yet, when I meet a person – as it seems to me In my thinking – that says something that I am not certain he himself believe in, I then feel fear and loneliness, alignment and distrust inside myself; on the other hand, A person that seems to me honest with himself, or at least is willing to "work" in self-knowledge and to stay open (I love people whose mind is open- Eva Kilpi's poem), then I feel awakening of trust inside me, while attending this authenticity.
I ask myself – why do I feel this way? And I realize it is my own fear of not knowing myself; if I don’t know myself – how can I ever get to know the other?
So I think about an old truth: one can never know her/himself totally, and this is the meaning of "being human"; all one has is to develop and become, and through that to know her/himself for the moment in the best way one can; In the next moment I will not know myself again, and will hopefully be willing to study my new-self.. J And the same in the next moment. Endless process.
Once, in old times, we didn’t have to know ourselves. Once, the instructions were clearer, they came from the outside as rules of guidance – through religions and traditions – and humans have been acting according to them. Today we have to find the way by ourselves, as individuals, but with the willingness to corporate with others.
Whenever we meet the dark and helpless moments, the uncertainty and the question "how one knows?" – we have the option (sometimes with a help of someone) to stay in the question, moving towards the inner knowledge, knowing ourselves a bit more than before. This might bring us closer to the "Tree of life".
All best wishes to hold the path and rebuilt the ruins of the past.
In life, in the external world, we move in different spaces – home, outside, school, work, in between places – we simply move, and of course we also act while moving. At the same time there are many situations in which we witness: we witness the outer world – people, nature, different situations.
It is similar also in our inner world – each of us can experience her/himself thinking/feeling/doing something: "I feel lonely", "I feel happy"; and also can notice her/himself knowing that he feels lonely, i.e., witnessing her/himself.
And as me, so is the other. It is usually the total opposite from what we do instinctively: our look is towards the outside.
The deep frame of Authentic Movement based on this acknowledgment of both mover and witness. It enables me experiencing the present moment vividly and in full awareness. That, of course, demands an on-going practicing, It doesn’t happen tomorrow morning.. We all have our habits and instincts from the past, from society etc. – for good and for bad; yet, as human beings we`re the only creature that has the possibility to develop freedom and choice; hence, by being aware through this method to our own present experience – in thoughts, in emotions, in will impulses – we develop the ability to recognize our motivations, and hence to choose our thoughts and actions, as well as our responses to daily situations and to life events.
Mainly, It is about individuality. Knowing myself through this practice, and getting know a bit about the other trough this practice, goes through totally subjective experiences.
In "subjective experiences" It means that every experience that I have – is my experience, the filter is only me – my senses, my opinions, my judgments, my past, my taste… everything!
This acknowledgment open a new channel to myself and to the other, for any other individual has her/his own subjective experiences. By living that, we can meet from a different point. By living that, I can witness my thoughts, my emotions and my doings with acceptance that allows me to choose to change them when I realize that this is my responsibility.